‘It’s not like that, it’s like this,’ she tried to help her partner. He knew that, but something was off and he needed a chance to figure it out. The newness of the embrace and the conversation was big enough, he wanted to get it. He needed a minute.
‘I just want to dance,’ she cared, but didn’t see that she had to give as well as receive.
So dance they did, they repeated the simple sequence over and again as the teacher made her way to them. ‘This is great, now I’d like you to lead him, change his weight to connect and off you go’
She realised straight away that asking him to even change the weight was totally different, she’d never led before. ‘It looks so easy’ she said as she tried again. He waited for her and she found him and started to walk. Her face became more thoughtful as she started to walk a circuit of the floor, she was about to start the sequence again when the teacher motioned for them to swap back.
This time she held her weight without needing him and waited for him, she became more aware of him in the embrace and the feeling of what they were doing. Relieved, his confidence increased and he began to make the sequence with some walking and pauses.
‘Now you’re dancing,’ said the teacher as they passed by…
Learning the other half of your dance will not mean that you will progress more quickly as a dancer. Progressing rapidly isn’t the aim though. It will make you understand your partner and their needs better and help you to adapt to them and that is where everything starts. When you hold back and fill in the blanks, the conversation to be had is very different.
Find out more about this way of learning to dance tango by joining a taste of tango workshop. The January session is fully booked but there are spaces available on the 14th April. You can book your places here.